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The Things That Be

February 5, 2007

There are some things that we won’t say and some things that we won’t admit. Like reading in the bathroom. Or licking the ice-cream tub clean. Or telling someone they’re unforgivably dense.

I have exams this week through, but I also have the study blues. I’m just letting the blues take over. While deriving the Schröndinger Wave Equation, I got thinking about why the world is so pretentious, if that’s the word I want. (Sue me.) We weren’t always pretentious, were we? I remember when I was a kid I was blatantly honest about everything. I used to say things as they came to my mind, without processing them and thinking if or not I must say them. I once asked a friend of my mother’s why she was so fat and was it because she loved to eat cheese. Needless to say, my mum was mortified and had to hurriedly say something to save face. That was when I got my first think-before-you-talk-manners lecture. I didn’t understand it then and I don’t understand it now. Though now, I take a couple of seconds before I say something and try my best to be diplomatic. But why must I?

We’re always taught to be nice to people. Say namaste to the elders, enquire about cousins you’ve never seen in your life, smile at guests even though you detest them invading your house at unearthly hours, make conversation with vacuous people because otherwise they will spread word that you’re an insufferable, undeserving antisocial. Ugh. Why can’t I just tell a person to bugger off? Why should I be tolerant and smile at them even though I feel like tearing my hair out in their company? Why, why?!

Some people would say society demands it. But perhaps the society is what we’ve created to keep ourselves in check, to nurture “etiquette” and proper social behaviour. If etiquette is to keep on pretending that something doesn’t bother you and going on as if everything was perfect, then frankly, I’d rather be a social outcast. Society is just another farce. Living room conversation and table chatter.

Subtlety on the other hand doesn’t help much either. To say “I have a little work, I’ll catch you later!” to someone on the phone when you actually want to say, “Listen, mate. You’re boring the pants off me. I’d rather be doing fluid mechanics.” is just postponing the misery. Another call and another excuse and another call. Saying the latter at least gets your message across loud and clear.

Very very few people have it in them to be cut-and-dry. To say, “Save it for someone with an IQ as low as yours.” Everyone wants to be thought of as nice and charming, well-mannered and refined. And therefore, we keep the guise up and in the process, forget to preserve our identities and lose ourselves in the whirlpool of make-believe.

P.S: I actually do like Fluid Mech. 😐

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16 Comments leave one →
  1. End of Darkness permalink
    February 7, 2007 12:33 AM

    I totally agree with you. I have though about all this, but then i figure its easier to follow the damn practices than try to be so scientific. If it makes us happy, and if we like being happy, let it be! Same goes with the concept of God but in a different sense:)

  2. Karthik.H permalink
    February 7, 2007 1:50 AM

    Well, I can totally understand what you might be going thru rite now. I was in the same kinda situation whilst in Xth. Used to blurt out ma mouth at the hint of a chance, lost loadza friends in the process, gained some enemies. Then I kinda realized it’s better to just follow the herd and be a “polite and soft mouthed person” rather than loose friends.
    Horrible it was, not in a mood to rite it now, will talk on chat sumtime:)

  3. hkarthihttp://hkarthi.wordpress.com/ permalink
    February 7, 2007 1:50 AM

    I loved this post…

    “Listen, mate. You’re boring the pants off me. I’d rather be doing fluid mechanics.” — lol…. true abs true… I personally had to deal such scenarios in my office sometimes. They seem to pop-up from nowhere excatly as when I start to put my thoughts in my report and in the process loose my whole train of thought!!!…

    But the way I see it its just a choice you make. Either you want to “cut-throat person” as society calls it, or be kind and curtious to everyone you know or dont know.

    The Choice is always ours to choose!

  4. February 8, 2007 3:17 PM

    ” Why can’t I just tell a person to bugger off? Why should I be tolerant and smile at them even though I feel like tearing my hair out in their company? Why, why?! “

    You can. You’re just the silly ass that is too nice. And you can’t live with the thought that someone might not like you. 😛
    Now me… I am unfettered by such thoughts. Hence I live a more peaceful and depressing life. 🙂

  5. End of Darkness permalink
    February 11, 2007 10:09 AM

    lol @me 😀

  6. February 11, 2007 11:53 AM

    @EoD:
    i know, i know – but college does this to me, you know! 😛

    @hkarthi:
    choices, yes. the most difficult part of life is choices. 😐

    and thanks for dropping by AND linking me! keep visting! 😀

    @kar:
    =)) we caught up on gtalk and we’ll catch up some more! 😛

    @me:
    podi. i know i’m too nice for my own good. which is pretty sad. 😐
    now DON’T rub it in. and i CAN live with ppl not liking me! how dare you! :O

    and OF COURSE you care about such things. 😀

  7. Sid permalink
    February 11, 2007 2:13 PM

    no subtlety here..the blog is nice

  8. February 11, 2007 5:58 PM

    @sid:
    no subtlety here
    and thank god! 🙂 the really wild stuff goes into the journal. 😐

    and thanks for dropping by and linking! keep coming back! 🙂

    btw, am curious, why are comments disabled on ur blog? and you hate ManU?! *faints* ugh.

  9. Sid permalink
    February 11, 2007 6:20 PM

    oh it was infested with egoists who cant debate..was bored so took them off..
    planning to enable them neway
    man u – i know – sucks.Fullstop

  10. February 11, 2007 7:59 PM

    @sid:
    man u – i know – sucks.Fullstop

    Whattey Nonsense!! :O :O ManU is THE team. THE men. THE team. 😐 Period.

  11. Sid permalink
    February 11, 2007 8:29 PM

    THE team. THE men. THE team.

    i prefer

    the bunch. the school boys. managed by a goose 😀

  12. February 11, 2007 8:59 PM

    @sid:
    for curiosity sakes, which team do you support?

  13. Sid permalink
    February 11, 2007 9:02 PM

    football fanatic…no loyalty..just the game

  14. February 11, 2007 9:06 PM

    @sid:
    weird max, i say! no team, no fun, no joy, no football! 😀

    the game for the game’s sake is all fine – but loyalty is what really brings it on!! 😀 IMHO. 😛

  15. Sid permalink
    February 11, 2007 9:25 PM

    when it is nationals loyalty is a passion…club football is fun… but being the cynic i took the liberty just to hate

  16. End of Darkness permalink
    February 16, 2007 12:01 AM

    what the? chatting in a comment box?? how innovative!! we indians always improvise, dont we? 😀

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